Why is my family falling apart..?

Im 23, my brother is 16 and i still live with him and my mom. The last 8 years i can hardly remember anything that my family has done together. Im being serious its like i have memory loss or something when in fact i dont because we truely havent done anything noteworthy.





My mom tries to do everything for us she can, but i'v been thinking recently that the reason we havent done anything is because of money. I blame my mother for this, we moved alot when we were younger and it was always because ';she likes moving'; and i noticed the last 3 houses she has always been putting every single penny she has on the downpayment and then upgrading the house all the time.. Since the market crashed many years ago she has been struggling to make bills and such.





Now my problem with this is if we didnt move so much we wouldnt have this problem right now. She gets Social Security, Military Pension on top of whatever her cleaning buisness makes and we still never have money for anything because of bills and the house payment. So as i was saying i cant remember anything we have done together because we never do anything due to not having any money... No vacations, nothing.. I think my brother is so used to hearing i have no money and her constantly on the calculator that he now just sits in his room 24/7 or moaps around bored.





I've tried asking him if he wants to go out with me driving or go walk in the woods or go to the movies or something and he always has this No that stupid, no thanks. I dont know why he does this, i mean he litterally sits in his room all day and night and does nothing with us not even for drives around the city or something. My mom and I went to the new york to see the statue of liberty not to long ago and he didnt come cause he didnt want too.. He just sat in his room on his computer.





Hes 16 turning 17 this year and i feal its to late to do anything with him, he hates school says he wants to drop out and get a GED because the GED is easy..





Between all this i cant find a Job and frankly im getting sick of looking and applying for jobs online because all they are now is online applications and each one has like 60 questions asking me stuff none related to Work... Im sure soem of you know what im talking about. I seem to go into a worrying mode everyday even when i fall alseep now. With these deep dression fealings... I mean really deep.. Have you ever felt so shitty and so depressed yo uget a sinking fealing in your heart ? Yea thats what im talking about. How do i make ammends when my brother ? How do i get him to have fun with me and get out of his room. I feal the last 5 years have been 100% wastefull and its really dragging me down thinking about how i will never forgive myself for wasting these years.





I even noticed i am turning grey now... Im 23 years old and i have grey hair all over my beared... I dont know what to do anymoreWhy is my family falling apart..?
Believe it or not, I feel exactly like you right now, lol.





My family hasn't been doing so well. We're struggling pretty bad with bills and such, just trying to make ends meet, but we're all very close and love each other. I say you need to make the first step to get your brother out his room and go for a walk, get lunch, start talking to each other again.





I know things seem bad and that nothing will ever change, but they will. You have to be positive. I have the exact same sinking feeling in my heart. I feel just as down and as sad as you, but you have to keep your chin up! Keep looking for employment, and encourage your brother to try hard in school. I know it's hard, I know it's difficult, but you have to try and have Faith. Pray to God, stay strong and I can only assure you things will change. God has a plan for all of us, and you have to trust Him.





Take care, I wish you all the best!