I knew this girl for 3 and a half years since we met we were best friends. We never did anything without the other, we had pretty much everything in common, and in high school nobody mentioned her without mentioning me and vice versa. We are also both artists.
My artwork to me is extremely important, it is how i express myself and spill my heart and my feelings out without screaming it out loud to people i dont know and who dont care. I have an EXTREMELY long fuse, i am very forgiving, i treat people how i want people to treat me and I am very patient and understanding. Im not shy I just don鈥檛 like to be confrontational if there鈥檚 no real reason.
My friend always expressed a fondness of my style (artistically) and she would sometimes do little sketches of it, which didn't bother me at the time, because she had her own style.
Extremely long story short
- I pushed her and pushed her to do what she needed to do to be able to accomplish her dream of going into art school. She was constantly negative which I attributed to her family鈥檚 not giving a ****.
- When she had given up I dragged her to a financial aid office and I didn鈥檛 leave till we found a way to get her into art school. We were there for like 5 hours and when we left she had a completely DEBT FREE ticket to art school. Dorm, Supplies, food, everything!
- When for personal reasons she was on 8903240 different phsyc meds. She accredited all her accomplishments to her meds instead of herself and the meds caused a lot of weight gain, which didn鈥檛 help her self-esteem. Another long story short she started to display some scary neurologically related behaviors due to these meds and we both agreed she should ask her doctor about weaning off the medications. After that she went from like idk. 10 or 11 meds to 2 medications. She lost a MASSIVE amount of weight and I did everything I could to show her that she had come such a long way and there was no reason for her negative self-image. I showed her what to do with her hair and makeup; we would split our money and go buy clothes we liked.
I mean, through all of this I only expected her to be a friend in return. Seriously I never used any of it against her or threw it in her face constantly. She was in a shi**y situation and I needed to help her out of it.
Because I wanted to get out of my situation, I decided cosmetology would be a convenient and quick way to get on my own two feet, while she was in art school.
Her school was like 2 hours away I was broke and when I wasn鈥檛 working I was going to school full time. We kept in touch through phone calls. I was really happy! She was really starting to get herself together and life seemed pretty sweet.
Then when she would come to see me from her school she would talk down to me as if I wasn鈥檛 smart enough to keep up with her extensive vocabulary and insult my intelligence with subtle remarks and would assume I wouldn鈥檛 understand them. Naturally this upset me, I brushed it off my shoulder for a long time but since she started going to art school her artwork started to look more and more like mine to the point where it was completely similar to my artistic style. She would make jokes I would make. She started to act like me dress like me think like me everything.
My artwork is the line you don鈥檛 cross really that鈥檚 all I asked of her is to be a good friend.
I confronted her once I had had enough. I wasn鈥檛 hostile or mean.
She apologized and she said she felt bad I didn鈥檛 want to tell her. I knew she meant it, and I still feel like she was sincere. She acknowledged that it was true she was copying me and said shed stop. She didn鈥檛 stop at all. She stopped copying my art to copy some other artwork for like a day then went straight back to doing it again.
The last time I confronted her about it she would admit and deny and admit and deny if you want to read the whole conversation before you post or something email me and I鈥檒l send it to you. Or add my myspace (myspace.com/superlambmachine) and look in my blog. But yet another long story short I said to her; stop copying my artwork admit that you did it and never do it again or don鈥檛 expect me to be a friend to you anymore. I made it clear I would forget about it forever if she would just stop. She decided not too stop and still hasn鈥檛.
I don鈥檛 know why she would disregard me like this for my artwork after all the stuff I鈥檇 done for her. I feel like she has stolen my identity. I was in a situation where I could not go to art school for free and I am in the middle of nowhere, for anyone to appreciate your artwork around here it needs to be a painting of a duck a tree or a hound. I worked really hard to put her in a situation where people would appreciate her artwork and she stabbed me in the back.
But I miss the friend I thought she was and I wish kind of that I could talk to her aboutThe loss of a friend :( PLEASE READ!?
wow, i'm very sorry to hear that. that is an awful thing for a friend to do.
and honestly, i'm not sure if she really is your friend, she seems pretty selfish.
the best advice i can give is to consider the good that may come from this whole situation, even though there may not seem like any good can come of it.
i'm sure you've learned many things about life and yourself through this whole thing.
and maybe that will give you some new perspectives about things and you can use that to create and newer and better style of art that describes what you went through. it may help you get through the loss of that friend by expressing your emotions the best way you know how, through your art.
it's an awful thing to go through but it sounds like you are a great person and friend and you will continue being a great person with or without this friend.
good luck in your future and try and find the positive things in a difficult situation!The loss of a friend :( PLEASE READ!?
Ouch...I can only imagine how irritating that situation could be. I, too, have a certain art style that I've worked years on, and I probably would be upset if someone copied it. But at the same time, you should take this as a compliment; apparently you must have a very good artistic style. Take her copying as admiration. Obviously, your friend is not going to change her ways. Sounds like there could have been jealously or envy in your friendship. It can be very disappointing for friends to turn their backs on you and take your kindness for granted.
Sometimes you have to cut the negative people out of your life, even though you may care a lot about them. You have to say ';What is this person's role in my life'; and if you have more negative than positive, you may be better without them. Take this opportunity as a time for you to focus on your needs and grow as a person. And if she's a TRUE friend, she will respect and support you.
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