Need male opinion/insight - mixed messages?

I am getting mixed messages from my by of 5years.





6 months ago he started using condoms - stating he had a UTI (urinary tract infection) fair enough, but for 6 months? At the same time he stopped kissing me stating he had sore throat again for 6 months??? Also when I sit beside him on the couch he's very tense especially if I try snuggle into him. This all tells me that he is no longer interested in us and is probably intimate with another woman, even though he swears he's not. We live 3 hours away from each other so it is possible.


Even thou we txt or MSN every night. However, I not sure but it seemed like my hair conditioner was a lot emptier last time I was there- he does not condition his hair. He says there have been no women over to his apartment. He does not hold me, hug me etc...





Yes based on the above I should cut my losses and run.


But here's the confusing part...





He is a very closed man with a wall around his emotions which lately he's been letting down, discussing his emotions with me and telling me things about his life that you don't tell just anybody.


If he were a woman I would know that means he feels close to me etc but I remember reading somewhere that just cause a man opens up to you it does not mean that in his opinion you are getting close emotionally.





So now I have no idea what to think, feel.Need male opinion/insight - mixed messages?
Well it certainly suggests he's sleeping with someone else but as you say yourself it all it purely circumstancial. If I were in your shoes i'd cut my losses. It's admireable that you feel he's beginning to open up to you especially as he doesn't talk about his feelings much but this can also be a minefield! If the time comes that you decide to call it a day he can very easilty throw his ';emotions'; back in your face and try and use guilt on you. Don't take that risk or if your willing to risk it bear it in mind and remind him that its was his choice to tell you personal stuff and it's not your responsibility. I've been there, done that. At the end of the day do what's right for YOU! That's what most important overall :)Need male opinion/insight - mixed messages?
YOU MUST TRUST HIM MORE AND TELL HIM SO or things will grow inside your head
He might be seeing another girl or even a guy. He likely go a sore throat from tickling his tonsils with some guys giant dork. As you've been with him 5 years (and not married? scary..) I am surprised things are not better between you and he is not forthcoming. 3 hours apart....why? You could try counseling...you could improve your own communication skills as well, a great thing to do no matter how things work out.