Really serious question about intercourse? need all opinions?

my boyfriend and i are in our thirties. we are both healthy. he was taking a medicine for hair loss and he said that was causing impotence and such. well he has been off of it for nearly a month. he doesnt stay hard a lot. he said he has never had a problem staying hard with anyone else. i am attractive and stay fit. please help. i am so depressed and feel horrible. i am in love for the first time and feel so awful. please dont make mean comments. i already feel horrible. i want opinions from people that have experience this from either a man side or woman's. thanks so muchReally serious question about intercourse? need all opinions?
Actually, it is quite common for men in their thirties to have a natural decline in testosterone, so it could be coincidental.





You know, even when a dog gets neutered, it takes 6 months for the testosterone levels to drop. The body takes a long time to adjust to things.





So, it's very possible that if the medication caused his levels to decline, that it might very well take longer than a month for them to climb back up to normal levels.





Only a doctor can answer this one for you.





But regardless, know this: Usually ED had nothing to do with ';you'; but everything to do with ';him.'; Dry your eyes and give him emotional support until you KNOW what is causing the problem. If he senses your insecurities and disappointment, it will make it worse for him.





And yes, I have been there. I went 2 years thinking it was ';me'; when in actuality, it was my husband's decrease in testosterone. And he was in his thirties at the time.





WORD OF WARNING: Most men do not like going to the doctor about ED. As I said, it took my husband 2 years to go. When he finally did go, the doctor just laughed and said, ';Mark, do you know how common this is, even for men your age? There's nothing to be embarassed about.';





Viagra truly is a miracle drug.





Good luck....Really serious question about intercourse? need all opinions?
I don't have personal experience but have heard things about it. Perhaps you should go to your personal physician and he/she can give you some advice or even medication, after examining your bf. This thing he got for his hair, you say not staying hard long is a possible sideeffect but still continues. It sounds like a medical issue that can be solved, you didn't describe anything that has to do with emotional issues here. And don't worry, it's nothing to do with you.
My husband was taking Blood pressure meds last year -- he is 32. IT took about 6 weeks after he quit them to notice a difference....then he got ';back up'; to where he was before.





I took it personally for a while --- because when you don't make a guy hard, it feels SO uncomfortable and you wonder if it is your not being sexy enough,etc.....





Him saying he has never had a problem wthi anyone else....thats just coincidental. He's trying to defend his fragile ego......Why not reply (and think) well GEEE Ive never had a problem with anyone else either, thats WEIRD!
He's lying to you. This has happened before and he's always felt much better to blame the woman and make her think either she isn't attractive or she is doing something. It could be the medication. Ask him to go to the doctor to find the reason. If he refuses, either he doesn't care or I'm right.
he said he has never had a problem staying hard with anyone else....but maybe he cannot have sex with multiple partners. You need to have a serious discussion, and try to get him to see a Dr.





If he refuses to do these things, then he is getting it elsewhere.
am so so sorry that you feel this way. I had a love marriage and my husband told me the same but I later found out he was aaddicted to porn. He was addicted to porn so bad that he needed porn more than he needed me. I got worst from there. :( am so sorry--- and I understand how you feel.
i have never experienced this situation before but my close friend has nd she talked it out with her man nd told him how she felt he qave her news dat she didnt wanna hear nd it didnt hurt he lost interest in her she didnt attract him but she didnt qive upp because she knew some1 would be attracted. sometimes its not about ya outter appearance durinq sexual intercourse its how u perform just keep that in mind.








cheer up sweetiee
maybe your man is going thru male menopause early on....thats why I am in my 40's and choose to leave men alone altogether cause when there at this age its nothing going on much for them anymore ever
Viva Viagra!! Seriously, is he on blood pressure meds? If so, that will salt peter you every time. Time to go back to the Dr.
It may take more than a mouth to clean his system !!!
how about you ask the doctor? theres a smart thing to do.
B.S. ask him about her.
why don't you tell him to go back to the doctor?
I'm 99% confident he is full of crap. It's not your fault.
Hair loss is caused by a build-up of dihydrotestosterone in the scalp - a metabolized form of testosterone.


If he was taking pills for it, it almost certainly dropped his testosterone levels.





Also, you are at the age where looks are not enough.


You have to engage him in foreplay now.


It's like an M%26amp;M.


If you were a women that expected to be made love to in her 20's, it's time to change your attitude.





My wife and I have been together since we were 18yo so we're kinda bad at foreplay and fumbling through it ourselves.


In the past all foreplay took was a glance across the room and we were both ready to go!