Whose fault is my awful life?

Seven years ago start taking drug finasteride aka propecia for hair loss.


Forgot about side effects and had libido problems while on the drug without knowing why.


Last year move into flatshar to save money for a house - since this recession was supposed to be worst ever and buying was mad we were told.


Flat'mate' turns out to have aspergers - didn't mention this in the ad - and hardly talks, leaves lights out, puts his clothes in my wash, turns off the heating so I'm freezing...


Have panic attack at work mid last year, thought it was because of work harassment but instead was side effect of hormone drug propecia.


Then go back on drug and d!)Q shrinks, finally figure out the cause then stop taking drug.


A week later aspie boy has slashed my leather jacket the horrible bastard cos I looked at him funny.


He couldn't get into nightclubs so was jealous. Plus he was a middle class tw@t while I come from poor stock.





No living room just a small cold room with crap tv so just stay in my room after work, no TV, and masturb8 to internet porn all night, reducing testosterone levels more.


Tried to move out of flat but landlord tells me I have to sign new lease and stay or else move out next day, going back on his word. am now out of flat but damage was done. Aspie puts pics of him jumping on my bed on his flickr.





Three weeks after quitting propecia my diq and ballz shrink and I'm impotent for life, lose muscle, good looks and job.


Will be on testosterone replacemnet therapy for life which might not even work.


Also should add my old flatmate before the aspie knew I was taking the pills and also Viagra - cos I didn't know why i had no libido- and told my friends behind my back I used viagra but not propecia.





Should I be mad at all these characters?





Is it my fault, theirs, a bit of both or what? Should I get revenge?





Where does blame lie:


1)me for buying drug


2)aspie for lying about the flat then trying and succeeding to make my life a misery and thus making susceptibilty to drug sides worse, rendering me imp0tent for life?


3)Landlord for not watching the flat, allowing it to be grotty and unclean,not vetting flatmates and crucially not letting me move out and being threatening in doing so


4)Previous flatmate who knew I took propecia and had sides but didn't warn me and told friends about viagra, plus left the flat leaving me to have to find a new one


5)Previous workmate who tried to make my life a misery but harassing me and making insinuations about my background, sexuality etc


6)the drug company Merck


7)the spivs who sold me it online without warningWhose fault is my awful life?
Your life it's only your fault */ OR success





You can't blame nobody, but you for your daily decisions, habits, actions, etc.


WHO you wanna be ? That is the question which matters the most, because you won't be somebody who you don't want to be. If you wanna be a loser than continue your life with the same attitude and you'll '; succeed ';


Yes, you can be a loser ! And who wants a person like that ? NOBODY





You should analyze better your aspirations and believe me : you'll get what you made of your life


At least don't hurt yourself, if you're going to hurt others then you'll see the feedbacks, but NEVER hurt yourself with drugs, alcohol, sex, and others . It isn't worth it. And don't forget that every second of your life is precious : what goes around comes around and YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU MADE !!!!! ( nothing more )Whose fault is my awful life?
i'm sorry, but no matter who you decide to blame, it won't get better.





pick one area to work on seriously, and try not to focus on blame.


It wastes your energy, and you can't progress.
It sounds like the script of an interesting TV film. Why not write it up, as a story? Even if it never gets made, it might help you deal with your feelings.
';A week later aspie boy has slashed my leather jacket the horrible bastard';


I nearly pissed myself when I read that, if you wrote a book, I would buy it.
I think you really need to talk to a therapist, counselor or a professional about this. They can give you the best answer.
personal reponsibility.
the jews.
A lot of people got it bad in this world. You're not alone.
t--here is a common theme here of not looking into things much before rushing in .....


but you also acted in good faith as well --so also the govenment should be acting in a way to protect its citizens ---so some blame there


but lets move you forward


a better house situation would be good-- move out --get advice from citizens advie bureau --know your rights


there is so much to share with you its knowing where to start


here i the issue re meds what is paramount is to choose your healing route------ carefully-- be really aware that the conventional treatment for this can be horrendous and you can go on for years with no improvement and massive damaging detrimental side effects from meds . Do read this very carefully and try and understand the principles behind what is being said .


Evaluate all of this info well 鈥搕his info will save you years of suffering ---years if you apply it ..


This will educate you on our health care system and its dire limitations


All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so.


That makes sense right .it costs millions to test and approve treatments because of the possible damage to people..


Drug companies Fund most research and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential鈥?thus your doctor will only recommend therapies with profit in them.


Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved needless amputations, needless pain and trauma, and much loss of life. Drugs are not the answer for depression with mind altering chemicals or any other mental illness. This is a fundamental principle and unless you grasp this fully 鈥搚ou could /will have years of suffering ahead of you .


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the other facet of your life -- life is to actively do some kind of voluntary work














This is the tool The value of giving Putting something or some service into society is one of the most transforming tools with which we all benefit . The value of it is much higher than we can possibly know and it should be included as part of everyone鈥檚 health program. The giver may ask how will helping others help my health and me! That is a very good question, which is very worthy of a serious amount of thought. This touches on the concept which is called karma .





For if one truly wants to live with the great allies of Health, wealth, happiness, Love and all those effects which one values one should really understand this concept. It is the only thing, which explains the apparent randomness of the effects, which come upon people.





Effects are all aspects of health, Wealth, Richness, [note these two are separate] Happiness etc.What is karma? Put simply it is the law of cause and effect. Or put as another way as you sow so shall you reap, or what goes around comes around. What do we mean by sowing? Simply every action or deed you do causes an effect and every thought causes an effect.





So if you have sown good deeds as in helping others, being of service, giving love and Kindness for lengthy periods of time you can expect to reap those seeds. Alternatively if we have sown other deeds and thoughts of a hurtful nature we can expect problems of one nature or another to beset us. Edgar Cayce frequently mentioned in treating disease that we were working against karma and frequently told people that they would get well faster by helping others.





Ah you may say why is it that babies are sometimes born with so many impediments; they have not sown wrongful acts.Yes they have not in this lifetime but what about their previous lives as in reincarnation. You may not wish to go into this subject at this time but there are millions of references to it, some in the bible and a lot of eastern religions, some people can actually remember their past lives.





There is now even past life regression therapy used in hypnosis to treat phobias, which are not connected with this lifetime.


now listen to this next concept really carefully


If we are unwell and by implication therefore suffering from past seeds sown it follows therefore one of the fastest ways to get well is to incorporate into your treatment plan service or giving to somebody as often as you can .





Ask for opportunities to be of service .I have proved this concept on a daily basis and feel that this concept is so important in all types of healing and to achieve other effects like having friends ,enriching experiences, money and other effect which we all need.





Just a few examples of how we can be of service 鈥揼iving Sharing our being, our wealth, sending our thoughts, giving to charity, sharing a joke, uplifting someone, giving listening time, giving healing, giving labour, giving love, giving entertainment, giving food, giving information and a million more ways.


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I would leave the flat, even if you have to pay a penalty - it doesn't seem worth it to stay. Get your own place. Concentrating on who is to blame is entirely besides the point. Just move on with your life. This is where you are - regardless of who is to blame. The only question is where do you go from here?
Dude, not everything is about getting a hard-on and having hair you know.


I'd like to tell you about an ';awful'; life but to be honest, I can't be bothered wasting my time telling someone who CLEARLY doesn't appreciate anything else but himself.


You need to get out more mate, see the real world.





I'm 19 next week and have already had a far worse life than that, and yet I aint sitting home feeling sorry for myself, I just get on witht he life ahead of me,


If all you ever do is dwell on the past, then it's going to haunt you and obviously means you don't want to move on.
Well its your fault for taking the drug without knowing it's side effects. You should only take prescribed medication.





If your flatmate has aspergers syndrome, then its not his fault how he behaves. He can't help it.





Your landlord sounds like a knob, but it's his flat he can do what he likes. You moved into it knowing it was a sh*thole.





Why shouldn't your flatmate move? What are you married to him or something?





EVERYTHING is your own fault. If your life is a misery, then who else's fault could it be? Stop blaming everyone else for your sh*t existance. And anyway, I feel that this isn't really a serious question.
You have posted this before - or your clone has.


I said then, and still say 50/50


Bad judgement and bad luck.





If you buy drugs online you can check up on them first. Lots of site with information.


See a doctor, you sound depressed.


No good blaming yourself or others. Revenge will do nothing but demean you , and it could rebound anyway.


what has happened has happened you can't 'unhappen' it.


Tackle your state of mind and move on.





Who will true friends believe, you or 'aspie'.
Sometimes life is just a *****.You need to pick yourself up and keep on going.I would be mad myself at the drug company and doctor also.But its up to you to get your our life back on track.Its so easy to put blame on other people and I can understand why you feel this way.But in the end you are the one who got to do something about it.If you can learn to forgive and forget it will set you free.I myself did this and I do feel better.Try this it may help you out.Coping.org ty
A lot going on for you, the only thing I can think to say that trying to find who is to blame might not be constructive, however the responsibility for making changes that you feel you need to make to improve the Quality of life, lie with you. Think about getting some support like CAB for your housing or a Counsellor to work through your stuff





Good luck
it's alittle bit everybodies fault. your friend shouldn't have ever said those things but people do things like that just to make theirself look good at the cost of others. that sucks but it happens all the time. and you should've read up on the meds. you were taking. that's your part of taking care of yourselve. sorry for the problems and wish you the best in life.
1) No one should buy a drug or take a prescribed drug without knowing the potential side effects. Just read up on it in the internet, ask a doctor or read the insert.


2) A person with a mental illness (aspie is so not PC) may not have realized he was lying. If you were having problems with him you should have been looking for a new flat and accepted the losses. You being a whiner doesn't increase side effects. You taken it over %26amp; over again when you knew it had bad side effects did. Grow up and accept responsibility for your own actions.


3) If it was unclean you should not have moved in. Doesn't anything register in you mind? If it was already unclean it would most likely remain unclean. Also what, if anything, did you do to fix it up?


4) Former flat mate was smart. Did what you should have done. Who cares what other people say.


5) Did you take any action? Report him for discrimination? Or just sit back and whine some more?


6) Read the insert. They do their due diligence to report side effects. They are not responsible if you are too foolish not to read them.


7) If you buy on line you get what you pay for - garbage. If you need a medication - get it from a doctor





No need for revenge unless you are fool enough to attack innocent people. Your mistakes are not their fault. Unless you are a child, you must accept responsibility for your own actions and poor choices.





Like Einstein said, ';making the same mistake over and over again is the true definition of insanity.';
Life is tough, but sometimes it is tougher than it needs to be...





You lack wise counsel and need to grow in emotional maturity and discernment of others. I'm not sure how old you are, but your own vanity has gotten you into some of these hassles... If you were satisfied with the hair you had and didn't buy drugs online, you'd be better off today.





As for the ';friend'; hassles, sounds like pretty normal immature relationship kind of behaviour - develop some discernment and lose these kinds of ';freinds';. If ppl you know gossip about others avoid them, they will certainly consider gossiping about you...